…and were involved with a Narcissist, know that stupid is exactly how the N wants you to feel. Know that and allow yourself the luxury of mourning what might have been, had the individual been different; mourn the illusion, but then dry your eyes, know you’re NOT stupid and move on.
When you feel stupid and naive, it’s because that’s how the N has set things up. You were never “good enough” for him or her. You were nothing more than a mirror and at some point you start reflecting his or her poor qualities. You didn’t act your part, you bad mirror. What happens to mirrors that don’t reflect correctly?
They get discarded. They get thrown away.
Keep your eye open. Don’t give your heart to someone until you have dated them (not slept with them, not made out with them, not played house with them) for months. Watch the person. Be alert for behaviors that seem odd. Be alert for all the characteristics inherent in NPD.
Remember this, as you date: All of us exhibit some qualities of narcissism, but it’s not a way of life for us. True narcissists use, abuse and live their narcissism. Don’t ever forget that as you journey through the murky waters of the dating pool. 🙂