Narcissists ARE evil. Reasonable doubt doesn’t enter this picture. While there are reasons that a narcissist acts the way he or she acts, those reasons do not excuse their CHOICE to act that way.
A narcissist will never do anything that does not benefit him or herself.
A narcissist makes conscious decisions; he or she makes the CHOICE to harm.
If a narcissist and his latest supply walk into a bar and the narcissist gets drunk, and then disorderly and is thrown out of the bar, whose fault is it? If you answered “the victim’s fault” you answered correctly and this means you understand how a narcissist’s mind works.
I have posted here that I’m not certain whether a narcissist truly knows he or she treats others badly. The reason I say that is because a narcissist, in choosing to treat another badly, makes the choice believing, in their twisted psyche, that their choice is right, good and moral. That choice will always contain projection of their own accountability for a situation onto whomever (and sometimes whatever) they find to be their nearest victim.
While sane people KNOW a narcissist treats others badly, and does it on purpose, the narcissist has no knowledge at all. All he has is a delusional belief system that tells him he is NOT treating others badly.
What a narcissist believes is of no relevance. A narcissist’s mind is twisted, sick and dangerous.
What a narcissist believes is a delusion; it is a construct within which there can only be one “good” person. You know who that person is.
A narcissist will always do only what is right for him or herself, and that action, regardless the harm done to any other individual(s), will be justified in the narcissistic mind as right.
A narcissist knows the difference between right and wrong only as it pertains to him or herself. No one else matters.
None of the above is a justification for the pure EVIL that a narcissist perpetrates on his or her victims.
Narcissists do not and cannot love.
Narcissists do not care about you or anyone else.
Narcissists are very good at hiding all of these things – for short periods of time, usually the length of time it takes to suck in fresh supply.
Narcissists do not have relationships. With anyone. Period.
Narcissism is rampant in our society. It is rampant because our culture not only encourages it, but supports it, through the venue of pop-psychology and the “gotta take care of Number One” mantra.
Narcissists do not want the best for you or anyone other than themselves.
Narcissists do not help anyone unless they can be certain it will be known by as many as possible that they have “helped.” If you need an example of this just look at corporate philanthropy. That’s an entirely different post, though.
Narcissists are the embodiment of all we have been taught is morally wrong; EVIL; and they are excellent at cloaking their behavior in the guise of goodwill and self-sacrifice.
I just wanted to make that clear, in case anyone was wondering where I stand on this issue.