I’ve been writing a comprehensive book on personality disorders with an emphasis on NPD. I’m not a psychiatrist but I know someone who IS psychiatrist in real-life and who specializes in personality disorders. He has agreed to review this book prior to publication for accuracy of information. I’m also going to request that he write a forward for it.
This book will define the term personality disorder, it will provide all the DSM-IV (cited) criteria for NPD, with real-world descriptions of each criteria. Each criterion will probably be a chapter unto itself, since there is such a massive amount of accurate anecdotal material available.
I will also include chapters on Borderline Personality Disorder since that disorder has so many crossover traits with NPD. Depending upon how long the NPD book is (I’d like to keep it at 300 pages!) I may have to write another on BPD. These books are being written with the purpose of helping others recognize these disorders and understand what they can do to better their situations if involved in any way with someone who is one of these disorders.
Please remember that individuals who meet the criteria for NPD and BPD don’t “have” the disorder, they ARE the disorder. Why? It’s simple. To have something implies that one can NOT have it. For an NPD, the realization that they are a disorder will never come, so they don’t “have” the disorder, they ARE the disorder. For a BPD, there’s a shred of hope, but in most cases, they, too, do not realize that anything is wrong with them, thus they don’t “have” the disorder, they ARE the disorder.
You will learn methods for recognizing those who are potentially NPD or BPD on the first date, but more importantly you will learn an accurate method for analyzing online dating profiles to determine whether the writer is NPD. It’s a little more difficult to extrapolate BPD from a dating profile and not always accurate, so I won’t provide that.
The book will also contain a compassionate and common-sense guide to rebuilding emotional health during the aftermath of interacting with an NPD (remember, they don’t have relationships!) and it will provide cited research into the developmental phases of a child who grows up to be an NPD adult. This will provide a glimpse into the why of an NPD and it will allow you to feel compassion for them, while understanding that pity is wasted and it will also allow you to learn your best method for detaching and distancing – for good.
Additionally, there will be anecdotal information based on my personal experiences, interviews with others who have had similar experiences and between each chapter there will be lined pages for you to make notes if you choose to print the book. The book will be in PDF format and will be read-only, and you will not be able to do a “save-as” so you can make electronic notes. Allowing that capability is dangerous for an author.
Please note, since this will be my material, garnered from many long hours of research, and then the effort put forth to write a book that resonates with truth, REAL help and guidance, it will be copyrighted as my material. If I provide this book and someone wants to use pieces of it in their own work, they will need permission to use it and any portions of it that are used must be cited (as I am doing with all my research.) I want to help others, and in doing so, I also want to help myself. If there is enough interest in this as an e-book, when I am finished writing it, I will post it here as a downloadable book at a price of $9.95 for 30 days prior to allowing my publisher to release it (at a much higher price!)